Feeling anything, even if it’s negative, is better than feeling nothing.

Emotional addiction begins when we are raised in environments that cause an activated nervous system response.

Stress, chaos, + emotional abandonment (they tend to come as a package) cause neurotransmitters to be released + create hormonal responses within the body.

The body + mind learn these emotional states.


We have something called the homeostatic impulse that keeps us thinking + repeating familiar behavior of our past. To repeat these emotional states. This makes us feel stuck. Powerless to change. All of this is a subconscious process.

The trauma of experiencing chronic levels of these emotions makes us unable to feel other emotional states. This is why we (unconsciously) seek out the stress + chaos. We can finally FEEL.

When we experience trauma there’s a dull, numb existence. Until we are in the familiar, then we become activated. We feel again. Feeling anything, even if it’s negative, is better than feeling nothing.

Seeking relationships where we can experience emotional abandonment becomes all we know. We learn relationships. And if we’ve learned that we won’t be seen, heard, + connected with emotionally, we will repeat this pattern. In cycles. Addicted to our past, it becomes our future.

This is nothing to be ashamed of. It’s a misunderstood addiction that requires work to release.

Until we become conscious. Until we become aware that we are not our past, our patterns, or our coping mechanisms we needed to survive.

For months in my future self article I’d write “I am peace.” “Peace is safe” + I practiced this emotional state over + over again. It was awkward until my mind + body adjusted.

Have you experienced an addiction to these cycles? #selfhealers

Ubuntu Chairman
Rad Tochukwu
Stay Safe and Pray for the world.

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