The subconscious mind is always seeking the familiar.
Our subconscious mind is imprinted from our earliest childhood relationships with parent-figures.
(I BELIEVE IN CHANGE, I BELIEVE IN SELF INDUCED CHANGE. MY MINDSET CHANGED WHEN I ENTERED UNIVERSITY. I HAD TO UNLEARN TO LEARN. WHEN I SEE LOVELY KIDS AND PARENTS I REJOICE. A LOT OF MY RELATIONSHIPS/FRIENDSHIPS MIRRORED MY FAMILY DYNAMICS. I HAD NO IDEA 🤷🏾♀️ SOMETHING LIKE THIS WAS EVEN POSSIBLE. THE IMPORTANT THING IS TO HEAL AND CHANGE THOSE DYNAMICS.)
They teach us how we are to be treated. They teach us how to be within relationships— through what we witness in the most impactful years of our development.
While we are learning a new language + social norms, we are also learning relationship dynamics that we will go on to repeat as adults.
This becomes our conditioning.
Our conditioning is patterns of behavior we learned by observing. Children learn what they witness. Then repeat this as adults.
There’s so much shame around relationship patterns.
There are beliefs floating around the collective that people should “just leave” or “know better” without an understanding that for many people dysfunctional relationship dynamics feel like home.
(WE LEARN HOW TO SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES, WITH OURSELVES AND OTHERS, WHICH IS HOW WE TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US. )
Why would a person leave home? How would someone know better, if they have not been shown better?
(SO TRUE, SO CHANGE COMES FIRST TO SELF AND WHEN IT COMES, OTHERS CHANGE TOO. FOR SO LONG, I WAS A CONTORTIONIST MIND READER WHO STRUGGLED TO FIT IN, BE ACCEPTED AND PLAY ALONG NOT KNOWING ANY BETTER. THOSE DAYS OF PEOPLE PLEASING ARE GONE. ALWAYS TESTED, BUT FINALLY KNOW HOW NOT TO GET PULLED BACK INTO THE OLD WAYS OF BEING.)
Healing is coming to deeper levels of consciousness. Of the awareness that we repeat what we know + this is not a moral failing. It’s feedback from our pasts.
(WE TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US’ IS ABOUT BEING RESPONSIBLE FOR NOT ACCEPTING DISRESPECT AND IMPLEMENTING YOUR BOUNDARIES WHEN OTHERS HAVE NONE. THIS HAS BEEN A GREAT PHRASE FOR ME TO RELEARN THAT I AM IN CONTROL OF MYSELF AND I HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE TREATED WITH RESPECT. THE HARD PART IS KNOWING THIS DEEP CONCEPT BEFORE ONE HAS CHILDREN. THIS DYNAMIC CHARACTER WILL NOT TRULY EVER BE GONE 🤔 I'D LIKE TOO BE ABLE TO UNDO ALL WRONGS THAT ARE PASSED FROM GENERATIONS TO GENERATIONS.)
It’s the result of the subconscious mind pulling us toward what it can predict. Through practicing conscious awareness we can make choices outside of our familiar— in alignment with who we choose to be.
(IT'S WORSE WHEN YOUR IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A PERSON WHO DOESN'T UNDERSTAND THE TRAUMA AND HAS A HORRIBLE APPROACH TO CONVERSATIONS AS SUCH. PLEASE, IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN, PROVIDE A PEACEFUL/LOVING ENVIRONMENT AND HELP THEM EXPERIENCE A WONDERFUL CHILDHOOD, SO THEY DON'T TRY TO FILL THE VOIDS IN THEIR ADULT RELATIONSHIPS.)
Remember that drugs have killed a lot of black people around the world. I don't hate the people doing drugs because they're human like me but I hate drug effects on my race. I stand to be corrected!! Hard drugs have distorted our children's futuristic plans and goals. Ubuntu Family is against the illicit drug usage. Drugs have landed many young ones into crimes, coma and death. SAY NO TO DRUG ABUSE. WE CAN DO BETTER WITHOUT DRUGS.
Ubuntu Family
Prince Rad Alagba Tochukwu O.
Stay away from hard drugs.
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